Wishful thinking

It all starts with wishful thinking. Not a good start, I’m afraid, but let’s be positive: let’s say we wish and we get what we wanted. What do we do next? We wish for more! And the more we get, the more we want. Now it becomes serious, as this is how expectations are born.

Expectations are scary, especially as they’ll keep growing bigger and bigger with each positive sign. A smile, a few nice words, a wink or a midnight text can do miracles, and your little small wishes become big expectations. Overnight. Well, now you’re lost: (…) you all know what follows, not long now before disappointment comes along.

Whenever I am disappointed, it’s my own fault. I’ve been long trying to throw the blame upon others and I know it doesn’t work. They’re just being who they are. My expectations are at fault.

The advice is simple: just drop expectations! Don’t think you can get away with lowering them, no. Just drop. Sounds good, but can we really take this pressure of ourselves? Can we let others off the hook of our expectations? Remember it all started with wishful thinking (not sure you can help that), a smile and a few nice words.

Don’t allow your wishes to become expectations (this word really freaks me out) unless you’re ready to be bitterly disappointed.

- happy for a dandelion in the back garden, wish to be taking photos in the orchard tomorrow, not expecting a sunny day though -